Question:
Why are the McCanns not showing emotions in public?
toietmoi
2007-09-15 06:21:06 UTC
1) Police asked the couple not to show emotion in public for operational reasons.
http://www.channel4.com/news/articles/society/law_order/how+has+mccann+reporting+changed/745762


2) They were also advised not to betray any emotion when making public appeals for help, which accounts for the even face which Gerry has presented to the media. Jim Gamble, chief executive of the Child Exploitation and Online Protection Centre, told them that if the abductor was watching he or she might take pleasure in the McCanns’ distress.
http://www.timesonline.co.uk/tol/news/uk/article2414796.ece
41 answers:
2007-09-15 06:26:05 UTC
They're damned if they do, (crocodile tears from the murdering couple) or damned if they don't (hard, and guilty).
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2016-12-13 14:48:36 UTC
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willowGSD
2007-09-15 07:22:31 UTC
All these people who think they should anyway, have never been through the tragic loss of a child! Never mind a situation like theirs!



True emotion is the last thing people 'really' want to see, especially grief, and for a baby or child even more so! You smile and pretend that life's OK while inside your screaming! The real tears and hysteria come in private! I've been there and people used to cross the street to avoid me because they didn't 'know what to say' and were scared I'd burst into tears on them. It was the same for my sister and others I've known too.



The only person who could want to see them suffer should be the 'abductor' though reading the comments since this started I'd say that there are some pretty sad people out there who'd enjoy it too!
wotzthepoint?
2007-09-23 03:33:17 UTC
They are both dr's, accustomed to not betraying too much emotion. (How would you feel if your doctor came to you bawling their eyes out about you having a disease, it wouldn't give you any confidence.) But...If your child was stolen you'd be distraught wouldn't you? Some people might think I'm crazy, but I put my money on the parents, there are things that dont add up! Besides, why don't they co-operate with the police?
Ollie
2007-09-20 05:14:00 UTC
I do not believe the McCanns have had anything to do with Maddie going missing.I remember a lady weeping her heart out over her missing daughter she was also looking after a friends child.About a week later the childrens bodies where found in her house.She had fooled everyone including me.

Yes she had murdered them.
Curious39
2007-09-15 07:44:33 UTC
Is this just another news concocted story, as all the rest are reported to be??? I can't see how a parent can hold back their emotions when such a dreadful thing has taken place.



Their professional faces may kick in I suppose, and that's helping, but God; they must be cold to be able to carry this off; ....this isn't work, this is THEIR child.



I read all that was reported, and yes it is all interesting and could be true......but I'll wait and see.
momof3
2007-09-15 06:43:40 UTC
In a way I agree as grief can make people do the strangest of things however normaly over here the police want parents on television straight away so that they can talk about their loved one in a human emotional way.This is to make the person a human being so that if the abductor is watching the person they have immediatly has a name and is a person not ust a thing! Forgot the pyscological name for it but it to make the abductor think what they have done.
snaffle
2007-09-23 04:03:08 UTC
Fully, accept that there are ways of behaving in order to change the reactions of the 'abductor' or perpetrator of a crime. I have no doubt whatsoever that they were advised to behaving in a certain way when they made a public appeal.



It's the putting their other children in the childcare facility, the jogging and the misspelling of her name that makes me wonder tho. Surely they weren't instructed to do those things?
Trainman
2007-09-15 07:31:58 UTC
In televised interviews in the first few days, Kate McCann could be seen crying and Gerry's voice faltered at times.



I think that since then they have been concentrating on raising Madeleine's profile, caring for the twins and latterly defending themselves against all the accusations.



In difficult circumstances, people often try their best to appear calm and in control, fearing the embarrassment that results from breaking down in public. The McCanns apparent lack of emotion is merely a manifestation of the British stiff upper lip.



There have been other cases where victims have been blamed, or at least accused of "knowing more than they are telling." Natascha Kampusch, the Austrian girl who escaped her abductor after eight years, appeared relaxed and in control on a TV interview only a few days after her ordeal ended. People quickly began to speculate that she was in some way involved in her own disappearance, but her self-control was merely a learned defence mechanism which had kept her abductor from killing her.



In Australia, after her baby Azaria was snatched by a wild dingo, it wasn't long before fingers were pointing at Lindy Chamberlain, partly because she was never to be seen expressing strong emotions in public, even during her trial. After the agony of losing her daughter, she spent five years in prison for a crime that not only did she not commit, but never even happened.
trancebabe
2007-09-15 07:19:14 UTC
A normal parent could not help but show emotion. Look at the parents of Sarah Payne and many others for example. The pain at the sudden loss of a child is not something you can switch on and off.
2007-09-15 07:26:05 UTC
Maybe they want to maintain a little dignity in the situation. Do you have children?

They also have 2 other children for whom life has got to on whatever the outcome of this mess. They now will be forever known as the siblings of Madeleine. In one sense it is a blessing they are not old enough to read the papers. Or to see what rumours peolpe are delighting in writing about their parents. Unfortunately this is something they will grow up too.

Isn't it time people stopped speculating and writing unfounded comments?

I experienced this on a different level as a child. I will never forget the public humiliation and conjucture imposed by the community. It colours and affects you for the rest of your life, it damn near ruined my childhood. What is happening to these people is not on a community level it is global. God help them.

So lets stop this witch hunt now.
2007-09-22 06:32:56 UTC
Strange how harry potter and buttercup have exactly the same answer isn't it.



As to your question. I have always said this but have been shot down in flames. The ghouls want their tears as well as whoever may have stolen or kidnapped their daughter. I would not give in to the ghouls either.
Jan
2007-09-19 12:14:22 UTC
Dude, this about the 5th question you've asked about the McCanns......you are obsessed with this case. Get off the computer, go outside and get some fresh air.
JULIE G
2007-09-20 11:01:09 UTC
YOU HAVE ANSWERED YOUR OWN ? I can not even come close to knowing the dept of the MC cannes pain

your heart must be broken and so heavy and numb a roller coaster of emotions and yet they still have to function for the sake of the twins my heart goes out to the family
2007-09-15 07:01:32 UTC
HIYA TOI, but how can it be humanly possible when you have lost a human being which is so precious to you.....do they tell other parents too, or was there some more specific about this case which warranted that ??? do you know, there are many people who support the mccanns, but you are always so polite and caring, even with those whom you disagree with.
2007-09-15 06:52:55 UTC
It is all fake and very good acting. How many times have you forced yourself to cry. It is not hard to do. Take these soaps, how many of the actors force themselves to cry on screen. People are so gullible, thinking that the McCanns are so upset, AS IF. This has turned out like the Princess Diana's death 'Was she killed or was she murdered.' It is all speculation at the moment until we hear it from the Portuguese police.
Charlotte's Dad
2007-09-23 02:35:17 UTC
Going to answer this by posing a question.When the hell are people going to get over this.Innocent guilty or not sure,which one of us is going to be the judge jury and executioner.Its not up to us,why do we think that we know the answers?
Norman W
2007-09-15 06:28:27 UTC
I would also think that, after so many weeks in the media spotlight, they must now be feeling emotionally drained. At some point the tears dry up, no matter how bad the hurt inside. Maybe they have now reached that stage, but their lack of emotion should be held against them, as some newspapers seem to be doing.
2007-09-15 06:58:01 UTC
mom of 3 is right - they also want the parents to keep repeating the child's name so the abductor can relate the child as being human and not an object
Ms Mat Urity
2007-09-15 17:18:28 UTC
Everyone reacts differently to such tremendous stress. Me? I would just go to pieces and be inconsolable. They either have great strength and amazing guts or they are just the most two faced evil beings ever. I am not suggesting either as I honestly just don't know
2007-09-19 10:18:05 UTC
Its called the british stiff upper lip.

Remember Louise Woodwood?

Same thing
2007-09-15 07:17:10 UTC
what difference does it make if they cry or not in the public eye when you think of the people that have made open appeals on the telly for a loved one that was missing and then to find out that it was just that person that was arrested and charged for the crime so why should they cry some times that is a sign of guilt and i don't think the McCanns have any thing to feel guilty for because they had no part in that child missing i say that now and will say it till the end
bobonumpty
2007-09-19 09:49:32 UTC
yes agree ....you don't have to cry in public you don't have to show emotion to be weeping inside ...just looking at Kate's face tells it all ......so time to .stop being so inhuman ....shes probably on meds to help her cope .... you really want to see her break down in public ... its like standing there waiting on a public hanging .....time the crims sorted this out sorry ..they know the pervs ...give her back
!Lady Stormy!
2007-09-15 06:29:25 UTC
Yes, I will accept that toi et moi. Good point.



I would say but..



But I havnt got an arguement with that. Fair point. You can tell they have both lost weight anyway, so that is some indication of some emotion.
jmc
2007-09-15 06:37:00 UTC
If my I knew my daughter had been abducted and then the police had me as a suspect...



I would be in front of every camera possible, screaming "find my daughter!!!"



The guilt is witten all over her face, if it was an accident so be it, although tradgic, they happen. But leading the WORLD on to believe she was kidnapped, letting people donate money etc. then that is unforgiveable and she will be hated by the world for the rest of her life.........if she is found guilty!
♥BEX♥
2007-09-15 06:51:51 UTC
i'm sorry, as a mother myself i could not hide my emotions my head would be battered and my heart would be in bits ,everytime i think of that poor little girl ,how frightened and alone she must have felt ,it saddens me i hope the truth comes out soon
The Inquisitor
2007-09-15 06:28:44 UTC
The only emotion they are showing is fear (of being found out) or guilt. No normal mother / father would act in that way if their child had been abducted. Mind you guilt should be the only emotion they should have leaving their kids home alone while they go out and get pissed. They should have the other two taken in by social services.
country bumpkin [sheep nurse]
2007-09-20 03:12:08 UTC
they know she/s not coming back so now they have resigned them selves to the fact.
alyson.earle
2007-09-15 07:16:16 UTC
the reason they don't show any emotion is because they don't want to give away their guilt. Any normal parent would be hysterical no matter what they had been told by police etc
Chris
2007-09-21 02:10:48 UTC
If it was my child missing, I would need sedation.
JanJan
2007-09-15 06:41:45 UTC
to me and many other people its so obvious why they don't show any emotion in public
2007-09-15 06:43:41 UTC
Perhaps it's because of many years of training[ being GP's] that has made them seem hard.And both of the above.And maybe they are numb.everyone deals with things differentlyI bet they cry behind closed doors.
kipper
2007-09-15 06:54:11 UTC
maybe theyre just unemotive people in public, maybe theyre holding it together for theyre other kids, maybe theyve psychopaths, they could be dead inside, i just cant make them out personally its all still got me baffled.
Bacon Double Cheese Burger
2007-09-15 06:29:03 UTC
I think the word drained comes to mind
Barbie V
2007-09-19 10:02:29 UTC
you cannot hide true emotions
iowntheavenue
2007-09-15 06:30:08 UTC
I think their faces are just dead now. Can you imagine living their life. I know so many people think they are very cold. I don't. I don't think for a minute that is the way they are behind closed doors.
2007-09-15 06:27:09 UTC
No one would have to tell me, or not to tell me to show emotion in their situation, it would be something i had no control over
joe k
2007-09-15 06:35:48 UTC
when you are heart broken i think anyone telling you not to show emotion would be waste of time.you just wouldnt be able to help it (ie cry etc.)
Felidae
2007-09-15 06:25:35 UTC
Just because.



Does it really matter?
2007-09-15 19:20:39 UTC
they are professionals.
harrypotter040
2007-09-15 06:29:45 UTC
They're damned if they do, (crocodile tears from the murdering couple) or damned if they don't (hard, and guilty).


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